From Control to Flow
When our emotional world is alive, we can feel overwhelmed, panicky, and experience an urgent push to bring relief to the fire within by controlling something or someone. In the shadowed soil of control, the seeds of suffering are sown, and the dark creeper which stifles our happiness begins to grow.
Is there any place for Punishment in NVC?
As caregivers, NVC invites us to consider two questions:
1. What is it that we want the other person to do?
2. What do we want their reasons to be for doing it?
The Exhaustion of Endless Needs
Endless expectations and needs can be so exhausting! Is there a solution in sight?
My Child’s Behavior ≠ My Self-Worth
When our emotional world is alive, we can feel overwhelmed, panicky, and experience an urgent push to bring relief to the fire within by controlling something or someone. In the shadowed soil of control, the seeds of suffering are sown, and the dark creeper which stifles our happiness begins to grow.
A Mother’s Ode
"Every cell in your prefrontal cortex carries the signature of the presence or absence of your mother" ~ Moshe Szyf
Can Everyone’s Needs Be Met?
Imagine shaking hands with your need, “Hello beautiful need, I see you, I acknowledge you, and sometimes, I mourn that you are not met.”
Care vs Care Taking
What is the NVC path to navigate the journey from emotional slavery to emotional liberation?
Taking Full Responsibility for our Needs
Our feelings are connected to our needs, not to the actions or words of others.
Codependence, Independence, Interdependence
With the awareness of interconnectedness, we ask ourselves, "How can I authentically be in touch with what I value while maintaining connection with what's important to the other person?" Integrating authenticity and care, we cultivate our capacity to care for the needs of the self and others. We maintain dialogue when challenges arise, which makes it more likely that we will come up with strategies that attend to the needs of everyone.
Walking the Bridge from Fairness to Willingness & Capacity
Expecting reciprocation from others has become habitual for us, but is it natural?
Living in Peace with Unmet Needs
NVC gives us choice to live in peace internally whether or not our needs are met.
The Tip of the Iceberg
Behind every demand or request is the beautiful plea of a human wondering, "Do I matter?"
Spiritual Bypassing
”A kind of pseudo-growth takes place very commonly when the person tries (by repression, denial, reaction-formation, etc.) to convince himself that an ungratified need has really been gratified, or doesn’t exist. He then permits himself to grow on to higher-need-levels, which of course, forever after, rest on a very shaky foundation. I call this pseudo-growth by bypassing the ungratified need. Such a need perseverates forever as an unconscious force (repetition compulsion).” ~ Abraham Maslow